Understanding Identity
Words matter. Whether you're part of the LGBTQIA+ community, supporting someone who is, or simply want to get it right, this page is a friendly place to start.
We've gathered a few trusted guides to pronouns and the words people use to describe who they are, along with some dates worth knowing.
Nobody expects you to know everything. What matters is being open, listening, and respecting how people describe themselves.
Proud Watford's goal is to be a place without prejudice, and that includes trans, non-binary and intersex people, always.
Looking for support services? Visit our LGBTQIA+ Resource Hub.
Getting the Words Right
Pronouns: the Basics
Pronouns are the words we use for someone instead of their name, such as she/her, he/him or they/them. Some people use more than one set, and some use newer pronouns like ze/zir.
You can't always tell someone's pronouns just by looking at them.
If you're not sure, use their name or ask kindly.
Sharing your own pronouns is always optional. Respecting other people's matters more.
Get Involved
Know a great resource we should add, or fancy helping to keep this page up to date? We'd love to hear from you.
Come along to one of our events, or email us at proudwatford@gmail.com.
Need to Talk?
Switchboard LGBT+: a national LGBTQIA+ helpline for anyone who wants to talk, in confidence.
MindLine Trans+: a confidential listening service for trans, non-binary and questioning people.
For more local and national services, visit our LGBTQIA+ Resource Hub.
Being a Good Ally
Small things make a big difference: listen, believe people when they tell you who they are, and speak up when you can.
Amnesty International UK: a beginner's guide to gender identity for trans allies.
All About Trans: stories and resources on how trans people are shown in the media.
Guides to Pronouns
Stonewall: a beginner's guide to pronouns, including using them at work.
Pronouns.org: practical tips on asking, sharing and using pronouns.
Onlea: a short animated video that explains pronouns in a few minutes.
If You Get It Wrong
Everyone slips up sometimes. Say a quick sorry, use the right word and carry on. A big apology can make things more awkward for the other person.
If you hear someone else get it wrong, a gentle correction can help, as long as the person it's about is happy for you to step in.
Keep practising. It gets easier.
Dates Worth Knowing
Some of the awareness days we mark through the year:
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February: LGBT+ History Month
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31 March: Trans Day of Visibility
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17 May: IDAHOBIT
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June: Pride Month
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23 September: Bi Visibility Day
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11 October: International Coming Out Day
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Third Wednesday in October: International Pronouns Day
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Last full week of October: Ace Week
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26 October: Intersex Awareness Day
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8 November: Intersex Day of Remembrance
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13 to 19 November: Trans Awareness Week
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20 November: Trans Day of Remembrance
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1 December: World AIDS Day
Language around identity keeps changing, and we review this page regularly. If something here looks out of date, please let us know.
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We hope this page helps you feel a little more confident, whoever you are.